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You've heard it before, parenting advice from somebody that doesn't seem worthy of even giving it. There are so many different parenting strategies out there today with so many books to read about how to parent. Everybody seems to have an opinion about what you are doing correctly and what you are probably doing wrong.

But one thing we want you to know is that no matter what, you should be a confident mother. You were given your child for a reason and only you can know what's best for him or her. Don't let the negative thoughts of random advice get you down. You are doing a great job!

Here are a few tips on how to regain or strengthen your confidence as a mother:

1. Quit worrying so much! Worrying will get you nowhere and worst of all, your children will pick up on your struggle. Have faith or confidence in your decision and just ride the wave. Wait until the event/appointment/whatever is over and then make the decision to worry if you really need to be concerned.

2. Don't open yourself up to opinions. We talked about this earlier, about blocking out unwanted advice, but make sure you aren't silently giving out the signal "please help me." If somebody you don't know asks you a question about your baby, feel free to give a little lie if the answer isn't positive. You know if you tell a stranger your baby never sleeps at night they are going to give you their life story on how they sleep trained their kids in only five days. Protect yourself from unwanted advice!

3. Find some mom friends! Having a set of mom friends with children the same age can be a life saver-- I mean it! These moms are going to be dealing with the same things you are at the same time. Sharing stories of what's working and what's not working will help you to brainstorm yourself of something you can be changing up at home. If you are new to an area, looking for hospital groups or local MOM Clubs is a good place to start.

4. Be a confident person. You are a person first and a mother second. Have confidence in yourself! If that means showering, putting on jeans instead of yoga pants, doing your make up instead of walking around like a zombie, then do it! Do whatever makes you feel confident in yourself. Smile more. Say hi to people. Stand/sit up straight. You can do this, yes you can!

5. Be consistent. Try to decide early on about the rules you don't want broken and stick with it. Sticking to your guns will build your confidence as a mother over time. You'll know that "we don't drink soda in this house" is a rule that you stand by. Whatever is, and there will be plenty of decisions, stick to your rules and you'll be confident in your decisions over time because that's they way it's always been done.

 6. Don't try to be like everybody else. You are you. You aren't everybody else. Sometimes a decision you make isn't going to be the popular decision but that's ok. It's YOUR decision and your children. You know what's best for you and your family so trust that!

I hope these bits have helped even a little. Being a mother is hard, we all struggle, but one of the best things we can give our children is confidence. Confidence in yourself, confidence in them, and confidence in your family's choices. Hang in there mama, you are doing a great job!

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Finding out that you are pregnant is so exciting and fun. There are so many things that come along with pregnancy such as milestones. When you are pregnant so many things are happening and changing. Plus, you learn things about yourself, your baby, and life that you never knew about before. Here are some quick first trimester milestones:

Sharing the news with your significant other

Maybe you both have been waiting for this moment. Putting together a way to tell your significant other that you are expecting can be one of the best moments of both of your lives. Make sure that you are able to record this special moment.

Sharing the news with family/friends

There are so many fun and different ways to share the news with those around you! It is exciting to see their reaction so make sure to videotape the moment because you will want to look back on this. Also, be creative with the way you announce to anyone whenever possible it makes it that much more fun.

Hearing the baby's heartbeat

This is such a fun and exciting time knowing that you have a baby growing inside of you! At first this feeling might be weird but the heartbeat allows you to feel the connection to your baby.

The pregnancy announcement

Of course you make the pregnancy announcement on Facebook, etc that you are expecting. It is a great time to share with everyone else that isn’t your immediate family that you will be having a new addition soon.

 

The Sonogram Picture

Everyone loves getting a sonogram when they are expecting. It's that feeling of knowing that there is life inside of you. You are able to see your baby without actually meeting, it's a very emotional time.

Feeling the baby move for the first time

This is one of the best milestones because when you feel your baby move you know that your baby is happy and content. They tend to move more after they are feed and happier.

Heartburn

Well, no one likes this part of pregnancy. Let's face it you can start to experience this early on in the pregnancy. There's really nothing you can do about it either.

Morning sickness

You knew this was coming. Of course there has to be some negative milestones. We all dread the part about being sick, but it does happen more often than we like. You will remember that you were sick and what made you sick as you go on into the later months.

Sense of smell

Your sense of smell is through the roof; you can smell things miles apart. Just like morning sickness you will remember the good smells and the ugly smells, which will make you sick.

Food Cravings

The food cravings will kick in and you will want food constantly. You will really begin to realize that you are pregnant and your tummy is growing!

Keep a pregnancy journal so that you and your baby can look back on it in many years to come! It is a fun time that will be remembered forever. It truly is amazing to see how one person can change so much over nine months and have a baby.

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It can be overwhelming to think about your child's birth! You know that the time is coming but you aren't sure how to really prepare for it mentally and physically. Put those feelings aside for a little while, you will realize that you aren’t alone. While there isn’t one specific way to prepare for the birth here's a few tips:

 

Learn about the birth process

Know the different options for the birth, and know which one you want to use. You will realize that you might not get an option to choose as well, so be aware of all the terms and options as much as you can be! Also, be aware of the recovery process, since this is a huge factor of birth.

Get a Hospital Tour

Make sure that you get a hospital tour so that you know where you be staying and if guests have to sign in, etc. You can see if you have a television or what you need to bring with you. It is nice to know where you will be staying so that you can ease your mind and not wonder.

Pack Your Bags

This is a given and a must! Make sure those bags are packed well in advance and in your car at all times. Also, make sure that you have a checklist so that you can ensure everything is packed and ready to go should you need it.

Get on the same page as your partner

Make sure that your partner knows your birth plan, knows where your bags are, etc. Keep him informed through out the whole process. Make sure he has all your doctor's contact information as well.

Chat with your doctor

Ask questions to your doctor for all of your birth needs. Make sure that you feel comfortable and aware of the procedure for your birth.

Decide who will be there for the birth

This is a huge thing since most of the time people will want to be there for the birth. However, only limited people can  be there, so make sure that you tell your doctor who you approve to be there. Let your friends and family know that you will tell them when you are ready for guests.

Stock up on essentials

I am talking all things essentials. Stock up on diapers, wipes, pads, tampons, paper towel, toilet paper, food, everything. You wont want to be running out for these items after giving birth, so make sure that you have all the items you are going to need at least for the first week.

Most importantly RELAX! I know it sounds super silly to relax and I am sure that you are nesting. However, things are already in place and most of the time you cant control birth plans or processes so sit back and relax.

We know how hard everything is after having a baby. You feel all kinds of emotions and feel like you haven’t lost any weight since you gave birth. First off all, take a deep breath - you are not alone. Second of all, realize that it takes time, patience, and dedication to lose weight. Here are something's you can do in order to help lose weight and get your baby back in shape.

Wear a postpartum girdle and hip girdle

This can help with your back support, muscle memory, and even provide support during breastfeeding. This can be a lifesaver especially if you had a c-section. This will help your body adjust naturally and compress your uterus back down to its original size.

Workout plan and diet plan.

You need to take care of yourself and your baby. Make sure to keep your body on track and find exercises you can do at home while caring for a baby. This will help your body adjust and get back to its normal feeling. It is important that you keep a schedule to your exercise and do it at the same time everyday so that you are committed. If you are not comfortable going to a gym then pop in some videos at home and sweat it out. We love the Beach Body series since there are so many workout options.

Wear your baby

By putting your baby in a sling you are getting a small work out. It helps stabilize your core while burning calories. You also get to bond with your baby. They are super awesome for any new mom to have. Read more about our blog post Why We Love Baby Slings.

Drink lots and lots of water.

Your body is made up of 50% water! You need to be drinking it all the time. If you aren't you can actually do damage to your body, especially if you are nursing. Nursing takes all the water it can to make milk and will drain it from anywhere in your body, so without water available, the outcome isn't good. Allow yourself to treat yourself once in a while to a soda, ice tea, etc. You can even try adding sliced fruit into your water it will help add variety and flavor to it.

Breastfeed

When you breastfeed your baby you need an extra 500 calories per day. But since breastfeeding burns 600 to 800 calories a day, even if all you do is sit comfortably and feed your baby, you could still be losing weight. (Best news we've heard all day.) Some lucky moms lose all their baby weight from breastfeeding along. Just remember, if you are one of those women, know that as soon as you stop or taper off breastfeeding, or begin supplementing your baby's diet with solids, your calorie needs will plummet. You'll need to adjust your calorie intake at this point.

Just by doing these minor things you will be able to feel and notice a difference. Know that things take time and this won’t change or happen overnight. Stick to a schedule and plan, but also allow yourself to be spoiled every now and then.